10 Signs You Need Couples Therapy
In any relationship, there are challenges, trials, and different problems along the way, especially for couples. There is no perfect marriage as well as there are no perfect couples. Each couple has its struggles, strengths, and weaknesses. Those are just tests in life on how faithful they are to their spouse and how deep is their love and if their love will last for a lifetime. It’s easy for some couples to utter sweet and caring words at the start of their relationship but as they go on, some will not stay strong and end up broken. These are 10 SIGNS YOU NEED COUPLES THERAPY for couples to scrutinize because these signs will serve as an indication that you and your spouse or partner should try having couples therapy sessions.
Relationship Quiz
What do you want more of from your partner?
Intimacy 
Communication
Consistency Sex
1. RELATIONSHIP IS NO LONGER INTIMATE
It doesn’t mean that your relationship is intimate at all times. Intimacy means prioritizing your partner than your friends and other unnecessary things in life. This factor needs time like spending quality time with him or her or spending family time together with your kids such as going to the park every weekend, having an outing in a resort, or traveling as a family. The more you spend time together, the more the two become intimate with each other. You will know everything about him if you see him always and you are not giving any time for each other to chat with someone as you know all of his activities and see him all around in the house. Couples know to spend time like hugging, kissing, and even doing sexual activities at the right time and the right place. Each couple has its expression of love as some are expressive and others are not showy on their feelings or affection but you can see those feeling la through their words.
2. LACK OF COMMUNICATION
Communication is a very important factor for any relationship to last. Through constant communication, a partner or a spouse knows the side of the true feelings of your partner. For those couples who are working far from each other, especially those who are working overseas, there are ways and means to still keep communicating with each other especially the use of gadgets like phones and tablets and internet communication. Simple messages like saying hi, take care, and I love you will matter to them. If you are open through positive and constructive communication with your partner, then there’s no reason why you can’t keep your relationship. The more you are open to each other, it would be easy for both of you to make some adjustments with your attitude and personalities, correct mistakes as no one are perfect, and make decisions that are not one-sided but will benefit each other. The more you communicate with your open, especially with the ups and downs, the more you can surpass all the challenges that you will encounter in your relationship.
3. LACK OF TRUST
Trust is a big word that entails responsibility. If you trust and put your faith in someone, it means that you know that person and he is responsible to do his tasks and fulfilling his promises. If your partner does not trust you with some important tasks in the house, in making decisions, finances, and especially the words that you say, then there’s something wrong in your relationship. The reason why you are in a relationship is that you trust that person with all your heart. If you can’t keep with your promises, then that’s the time your partner losses his trust in you. If your partner started to seek trust from other people outside, then it’s an indication that he lacks trust in you and this sign needs counseling to restore and preserve your relationship. Trust is the result of how actions speak louder than words. You need to walk the talk and prove to your partner that you are doing and fulfilling what you are saying.
4. KEEPING SOME SECRETS
Openness to each other is one of the key factors to last in any relationship. If you keep secrets and when these secrets are known by your partner, he will surely get mad at you. To avoid this to happen, be open to your husband or wife. Tell him about everything including your past issues, mistakes, and some limitations in life. If he truly loves you, he will accept everything about you including your past.
5. UNSETTLED ARGUMENTS
Arguments must be settled immediately before it gets worse. If there is more than one argument that is not being settled in a day and it lasts for a week and especially for a month, then you need some advice this time from a counseling expert.
6. DISHONESTY ABOUT FINANCES
Finances are one of the issues that some couples is not agreeing with each other.
If one of you is not honest with money matters like spending it with vices, liquors, and other unnecessary spending habits without the permission If your partner, then being dishonest with finances
7. PRIORITIZING OTHER THINGS IN LIFE
If you are not the priority of your partner like is busy doing other things like he chose to spend more time with his friends and colleagues than prioritizing you, then there’s something wrong between the two of you and it must be settled the soonest the better.
8. WON’T LISTEN TO YOUR ADVICE.
If your partner is not open-minded and won’t listen to your advice especially if he did something wrong and won’t accept if he is wrong, then try to seek couple counseling. Listening is also important in keeping relationships last.
9. DOUBTS LIKE THINKING ABOUT HAVING AN AFFAIR WITH SOMEONE
If he is always thinking and counting you that you are having an affair with someone, then he doesn’t trust you anymore.
10. NO PLANS FOR THE FUTURE
Does your partner plan for your future what are your goals five years from now? If he has many plans for your partner, it means that he wants to spend the rest of his life with you and want to grow old with you.
