Passionate Sex
Your in a relationship, you have chosen your partner and everything is perfect except you don’t have passionate sex. Want to find out how to have passionate sex and what does it really look and feel like. Here’s a hint it isn’t like what you see on tv or in the movies. It is BETTER!
Passionate sex is when you and you partner really unleash your full sex drive on each other. We are talking about full exploration of their body and yours. This is when there aren’t any issues you just want to have it with them . You want to tell them your kinks and find theirs. It can get intense. First you have to make sure you are secure with all the things that lead into passionate love making. Well we have a list below of just what you need to know.
Passionate love making – The guide to passionate sex
- Love yourself. We all have a love for ourselves, but it needs to be deeper than that. It has to be unconditional and it has to be all the time. What is unconditional self love? It means there is no condition that changes the love you have for yourself. Easiest example is we aren’t all happy with our weight. We want to be more muscular or thinner. Putting a statement into your head like I will love myself more if i can lose 15 pounds is a condition. Unconditional love is loving yourself at the moment. If you haven’t fallen in love with yourself talk to a professional and get on the right course. You only get one you and you are your until you die. Love yourself and do it now. If you want passionate sex you have to be passionate about yourself.
- Be spontaneous ability to have sex anywhere. You and your partner need to be able to just throw down anywhere you both feel the urge to have sex. Of course make sure you aren’t in the middle of a store. But if you are in the mood and the time is right don’t put it off. Succumb to your desires and go after each other. That animalistic urge that over comes you is natural and you need to act on it. If you are scared to initiate it physically come up with a word that tells your partner you want them. I use the word “now” just that one word while looking them in the eyes. I can’t send a clearer message.
- Have a deep connection. This isn’t just the physical sense of passionate sex. This is the emotions that drive you to one another. These are the deep conversations about your insecurities, your comfort levels with each other. The consistency you always wanted. This is where you share your deepest feelings and emotions. This takes time to build the trust to just speak what you are feeling knowing there isn’t judgment coming from your partner. Talk to a therapist about the topics you want to discuss and they will guide you to the right time and place.
- Full use of all your senses. You have 5 senses and you need to use them all. You need to touch your partner, run your hands and fingers all over their body. Explore different zones, see how your partner reacts when you pinch or bit or caress certain areas. You need to taste their lips and body. Licking and kissing will help with the taste sense. You need to hear how their heart beat changes or if they moan when you explore a certain area. Watch them and they enjoy your exploration, they might give you a certain look, or you can see how their body moves when you go on your adventure. Smell their cologne or shampoo take deep breathes of them in and out and remember the smells. Ironically a certain smell can bring back a memory, and if that memory is passionate sex you can get turned on by a scent. Weird, right, try it.
- Explore and try different positions. Passionate sex is an all over occasion. There are no limits to it just being in the bedroom. Trying different positions and areas will give you different pleasures. On the couch while watching a movie or even when you are cooking dinner together. Since we know you have to be spontaneous try everything that comes to mind. You on top, or on the bottom, or next to each other, try everything. You might find a new favorite position that you might get you to the zone quicker. At the drop of a hat you might find some extra passion you didn’t know you had.
- Be comfortable with your body and theirs. I get it we all have an issue with our bodies physically but as explained in step 1 you have to love yourself. Covering yourself up to your partner shows that you have an issue. This can kill the mood for your partner since they have already accepted you as your are and I bet you those little imperfections you have attracts them to you. Same goes for your partners body. Find their little imperfections and learn to love them and look forward to seeing them. Those pieces of their bodies makes them special and guess what they are yours to play with.
- Get kinky and loud. This one speaks for itself. Well I will give you some PG examples to help with this piece of the puzzle. Tell your partner what you want and when you want it. Express to them to grab, bite, pinch, lick and suck. Tell them how it makes you feel and if you want more of it. It it feels good scream it at them. Motivate your teammate to hit your spot and reward them for it. Who cares if the neighbors hear it. Go for it, step out of your comfort zone and share the experience with your partner. Don’t hold back fucking say it!
- Focus on your partner not yourself. If you focus on giving your partner pleasure the law of reciprocity comes into full effect. If you suck and lick I bet you they will do the same. You want them reach an orgasm I am positive they want you to reach yours. So do all the dirty things you want done to you on them. When you are in the middle of doing it ask them if they like it. Ask them if they want you do do something different. Ask them what they want. Of course there are boundaries that you and your partner established. So go please your partner, make them want more and more of what you are doing. Don’t stop keep going. Give them the “I want you now eyes”. Fulfill their needs and desires. Be what they always wanted and do it good. Make them think of these moments whenever they are in the mood. Make them think of you.
- Tell them your true feelings. share your love. Before, during and after your passionate sex session be vulnerable and tell them how you feel. They need to hear what you are expressing physically. They want to know this so they feel comfortable with sharing their own feelings. I mean don’t just say it, mean it. Tell them you love them. Share with them how much they make your world happy and exciting. Tell them how much you think about them. Share those feelings and emotions to keep the passion going. Your partner is magical but still can not read your mind.
- Pre-suade them into sex with you. What is pre-suade? It means put something in someone’s head to start a thought process. For example you should learn about consistency in a relationship. Have you thinking you need to know what it is? Make them think about you way before you and your partner get to see each other. Leave a note in lunch or send a text. Be dirty with the text or note. I bet you they will be thinking about ripping your clothes off all day. Wait until you two get to see each other later. Those thoughts turn into action and bam! Passionate sex instantly. It’s a way of getting worked up and anticipating what’s to come. Like when someone brings you a present wrapped up. You will think about it until you open it. Do that to your partner. Want to take it to another level send a sexy picture. Get those engines started!
- Don’t fall into a routine. As said before be spontaneous. Also keep expectations to a minimum. Expectations can ruin everything. Keep an open mind. Do different positions, bring toys into bed. Touch areas you usually avoid. Be the aggressor. A routine can diminish the excitement. You want to keep the excitement going. Keep half your clothes on, start teasing your partner in the living room, or when you are cooking. Do something that will draw your partners attention and let their mind start to wonder. Last but not least get some lingerie. They make it for him and her so get to shopping and sexxy yourself up. {lingerie link here}
- Try toys and games with your partner. Yes you saw that right get toys. Why cause they are fun and can do things we will not achieve. Toys can be used on both partners as a tease or during your passionate sex session. Shop together to get these toys. Some are hand held or can be put on. This will also make your imagination run wild while you are shopping together. So spend a few dollars for your pleasure. Need help find a place for toys without worrying about it being to insane here is a link to a discreet company that will help you out.
Now that you have the basis for how to have passionate sex its also time to communicate with them about your desires. This is where the relationship can only get stronger and the sex hotter. When you are in a zone of lust and love, all boundaries come down and you can safely express all the emotions and needs to your partner.
Before you go with your new list of how to have passionate sex remember to have fun. Life is too short to be stressing about sex being perfect. Enjoy the moments and keep trying to having the best passionate sex of your life.
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