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Being in a relationship has it’s up and downs. Hopefully in your situation there are more ups then downs. While there will be arguments as long as you and your partner are on the same mindset everything will be perfect in the end. That is why you have couple goals.

What are couple goals?

This is when you have short term, medium term and long term goals that you and your partner can both work at together. This will not take place of your personal goals, but it is a great map to where you and your partner both see your relationship in the coming days, months and years.

What is the difference between personal and couple goals?

Personal goals are what you want to achieve personally. But that is not the huge difference. Personal goals are for you to set and beat on a daily, monthly and yearly basis. These are the detail oriented goals you need to set for yourself. This is where personal promotion, income and personal health come into part.

Couple goals are when you can combine your goals with theirs. More of money need to retire, where you want to travel and how many children you want to raise. See the difference yet? You as a couple can have a weight loss goal in mind but personal goals will be the total weight loss. Yes its good to have a couple goals of being healthier but you wanting to lose 15 pounds and your partner wanting to get stronger using weights will fight with each other. So the personal goal will be to lose weight but the couple goals will be a healthier lifestyle.

How to set personal goals outside of couple goals.

Personal goals need to be laid out in 3 different forms:

Short term goals. These are the goals from 1 week to 6 months. This is where you start setting your goals for fitness, work goals and small vacations. It takes around 3 weeks to make a habit so include these habit making goals in the short term goal category. If you want to start an exercise routine this is where you would put the habit goals.
1. What is a habit goal. This is where you start creating a habit. This is where you start a routine that you have to stick to for at least 3 weeks. Want to get to work earlier this is where everyday you set your alarm for earlier in the day and make sure you get up. After 3 weeks your body will not let you sleep past your alarm since you created the habit.
2. Another habit to create is your eating habits or self improvement. you can create a reading goal where you set aside 10 -20 minutes a day and read a book. Do this for 3 weeks and you will not be able to go through the day without reading something for the 10 minutes you set aside.
3. Another habit goal is learning a new skill. Set a timeframe that you will learn how to master a new skill, like building a website or blogging. This will then be done over 3 weeks and you will be learning new skills over the year you didn’t think were possible
Medium term goals. These are the goals that go from 6 months to around 2 years. This is where you start to make the change you want personally. This is the meat and potatoes of goal setting. Want to advance in your career set up you medium term goal to hit a certain level or paygrade.
1. For you r medium term goals set up and visualize where you want to be. Feel and taste what it will be like to hit this goal. Do a little daydreaming and get a full picture of all the aspects of this goal.
2. This is where you can start designing your short term goals to meet your long term goals. If you line both of these goal sets up you have a plan to hit both sets of goals.
Long term goals. These goals are when you visualize the future you want. This is full daydreaming. When you vision how your future is going to be. This is where you actually dream about how much money you want, the house you want to live in, the car you want to drive. What your job will be. The clothes you want to wear. If you want to move where do you want to be. Vacations you want to experience, traveling the world not worrying about expenses since you have the money. Use this long long term goal to see where you really want to be.

Here is where it all comes together with couple goals.

Combining your personal goals with your partners personal goals will not work. Trust me what each individual person wants will not coincide. This is where you have to have the open and deep conversation with your partner. Before you talk about couple goals there are some rules.

Rules to discussing couple goals with your partner

Do not take anything your partner says personally. Your partner has the right to dream and visualize what they really want. You have no power to shoot down their dreams. Think about what they are saying and let it sink in. Their ideas are not stupid it is what they want. On the other hand they might suggest something you never considered.
Keep an open mind. You never know the might enjoy something that you never tried. Give the idea a fair try and even lean into the idea. My partner likes tennis. I never played tennis before. I tried playing tennis, even though is stunk at it I now enjoy playing tennis. If I would have shot it down I would have never created a new hobby I enjoy.
Be vulnerable. Share what you really want. If its a house in the mountains with no neighbors share that with your partner. There is nothing wrong with sharing exactly how you feel. You want your partner to share exactly what they want to. This will take work and a lot of loving conversation, you will be amazed what idea you and your partner will have together.
Make sure you speak and receive in unconditional love. Let them know you love them and what ever they say or visualize will not affect your feelings towards them. This will make the deep conversation easier and more fun.
Couple goals are not written in stone. Peoples lives and ideas change so allow change to happen. If you want to live on the beach and then find skiing as a new passion, living on the beach will not fit into your life. So remember goals change, be open to change and be happy that you can have a n open conversation with your partner about the changes you might have.

Couple goals setting up your future

This is where it gets fun. This is where you and your partner work as a team to create the perfect life together. Set your goals hold each other accountable. Celebrate your victories and work on your defeats. The team work you and your partner can have setting up couple goals will make your life and relationship stronger.

Set up your long term goals first. This is the dreaming stage. Let your imagination run wild. Make a list of everything you think of. Talk about and sense how it feels to have these goals. Share your vision with them. Want some help with that here is one of my long term goals. I want to wake up on a warm day. Make the perfect cup of coffee walk out onto my patio overlooking nature. There are some birds singing in the background while we enjoy the morning breeze not having a worry in our minds except for where we are going to explore today.
1. Write down your long term goals as a list see if there are any matching dreams. Combine those into 1 goal. The long term goals that don’t match open up the conversation and that that is where compromise can set come to life. Discuss the ideas that you or your partner came up with. See if you or your partner are willing to do that long term goal together. If so write it down. You will eventually have a dream list together. Talk about this dream list all the time and see if any new ideas come to fruition. Watch how your relationship gets stronger as you are now both fighting for the same dreams as a team.
2. Add to this dream list as much as you can. Make the dream list visible like on the fridge or on a mirror so you see it everyday and you know you and your partner are sharing couple goals. Yeah this might seem weird to people that come and visit but do not shy away from what you really want.
3. As a project for couple goals make a vision board so you can see what you really want to do in the future. Print out pictures of the views you want to take in and really look at how to set up this board to keep you on track to what you really want. Seeing your dreams everyday will make a picture in your subconscious. Having this vision implanted will make the work you put into worth it. Your mind will not let you down.
Your medium term goals should now align with your long term goals. This is where you start to breakdown what you need to do to reach this goals 2 years out. Do you need separate investment accounts. Do you need to take on more work or get a raise or pay increase to make these goals come true. With the medium goals being planned you can start making action plans to get where you want to be. This will be your motivational list. If you want to go backpacking in Europe you have to get your bodies in shape to do so. Get that healthier lifestyle plan in place. Where do you want to be 2 years down the road with your health? Start visualizing how you are going to get there. Challenge your mind with these goals. Make I work overtime and through the law of attraction what you need to do will find it’s way into your life.
Short term couple goals. Plan out your daily task in this phase of goal. What do you need to do now to make your future what you envision. You need to make more money, learn how to communicate your thoughts better with your partner write all this down. Build your relationship on what you want in the future with your actions now. Learn your partners love language. Start to act like a team, motivate each other and lift your partner up when they are down. Create a daily checklist on things you need to do everyday and watch your goals start getting accomplished. Save money like you never did before. Really go after what you want as a team and start to celebrate your victories. This is a team sport so get excited about where you are and where you want to go.

To sum up what you need to do for couple goals here is the quick checklist

Openly communicate how you see your future together
Talk out of unconditional love
Listen with your heart
Be vulnerable
Visualize your life together
Share your secrets and dreams
Act like a team
And lastly put in the work. Do whatever it takes to make your couple goals a reality

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