Family Counseling
Family stress can make or break a family structure. There are many ways family counseling can help open up the communication inside of you r family. In the fast paced world we live in with all our responsibilities and travel to and from work we don’t really have a strong grasp on how our family is doing throughout the day or even weeks. The little time we spend together really isn’t enough to gauge how we are all sharing in the family love.
There are many reasons why the communication between you and the members of your family is not strong enough to hold up through the daily stresses. We all have our own schedules to live by. You have work maybe 9 to 5 and then have to commute back and forth to the work place. Your kids have school or daycare. Your wife also works and has to commute. The limited time we get to spend with each other during the week aside from homework and meals is highly limited.
After meals and work are finished we all have different ways to relax from a hard day. Most will plop down in front of a tv till its almost time for bed. There aren’t many spare minutes to really have an open and deep conversation. The weekends come and go faster than you can imagine and those issues that anyone of your family have are still there not being addressed. Those issues can then build up into bigger problems or resentment and hatred.
A family counselor can help drive out those issues in the family and open the dialogue so we can all start to change from what we are learning. There might be a child being bullied or a parent who has a huge amount of stress and no way to release the grasp stress has on them. One stressful snap at a child and swirl into an abyss of issues if not addressed at the moment.
Think of a family counselor as your operations manager of the household. They have an open template for questions or problems to be brought to light then the family as a unit can address those issues as a whole. Working out the problems together can be the healthiest thing for your family. Working as a whole unit to overcome any hurdles does wonders for a family unit.
There are other reasons why you may need family therapy. Here are 6 topics to look into as a member of your household:
1.Lack of communication with your kids – A family counselor can help open the dialogue between you and your children. We always asked the same shallow questions like how was school and how much homework do you have. We usually don’t go to deep since we all have our own issues we are dealing with. A counselor can help break through to your children. Maybe they are having a hard time making friends or getting their work done. With the help of a family therapist in a loving environment your child can feel safe enough to share their problems following the example you set by sharing your problems as well.
2. Distant feelings between family members – On our journey we always need time to ourselves to relieve stress or think about our future goals. our children don’t have the capability of handling these stresses so they tend to shut down. Without the right guidance this can be a slippery slope as they mature into adulthood. If the lines of communication are open with family counseling you can all be taught the tools you need to help situations get clarity and be resolved.
3. Stubborn teenagers – We have all had our hormones raging when we were teenagers. We can also agree we weren’t sure of the outlet to let those hormones come out into the act of communication. If you are in family counseling there comes a means in which you can work as a team to resolve the issues that come up as a family and really find out how to help your teenager deal with the rising life style they are living. We as adults can be stressed with daily activities imagine being a teenager in the same world. We have learned to cope but haven’t taught our children how to cope as well.
4. Arguments in the household – Many families revert to family counseling when there are lots of arguments and disagreeing in the house. You should also seek counseling when everything is good in your house. This being you can all learn what is making the house function as a unit and it makes it easier to build on the good times when the times are good then to try to only handle the bad times. Its like your yearly check up to the doctor when you know you are already in good health. Arguments happen but the the advice of a family counselor teaching your household how to argue can actually be a huge advantage. If an argument can stay on track and there can be a resolution without any ones feelings being really hurt that is the proper way to argue.
5. A broken household (divorce) – Not all relationships will last forever and some end in breaking up the relationship and even divorce. This can be hard on your partner and children. Since the household is broken there needs to be a counseling introduced to make sure the family understands their role in the new household and talk the any issues that might arise with feelings and ambitions. Having an open line of communication within your family can make the transition from a 2 partner home to a 1 partner home much easier. This can also open the lines of communication between visits and sharing the emotions that kids have during a divorce. Remember your kids are not adults they way they deal with this array of emotions can have lasting effects on how they deal with relationships for the rest of their lives. There is more about Co Parenting by clicking on this link.
6. Death – Dealing with death and grief in a household can be tough. We have experienced death one way or another. It is either a family member a friend or even the beloved family pet. I recently lost my dog that was part of our lives for 15 years. With the help of counseling i was able to cope with the loss of my dog and also learned we all deal with grief differently. With an open heart i accepted that we were all sad and how we talked about it helped better than I would have imagined. Everyone deals with grief and death differently, not to judge how someone grieves is the first step to healing. People cry, shut themselves off from the world or even find ways to escape reality. When we understand how we all grieve in the family we can find ways to help heal and deal with the death we all faced. Family counseling can help with this process as there is an open line of communication between the members of the family.
There are many reasons to seek family counseling but remember it isn’t a last resort. This counseling should be used as a tool to help build a more solid foundation in your home. When you all learn how to communicate your feelings and solve any issues using unconditional love you will find a stronger bond in your family structure. A household that communicates openly and freely in unconditional love creates a tighter bond in life. Know that everyone in your family can trust each other with their feelings is so powerful. Imagine the day when your child can come to you with a problem and you can clearly understand the issue talk about it and resolve the issue without an argument or fight.
Anytime someone in your family is dealing with an issue there are open lines of communication and love. That isn’t found in many places. I know growing up i was stand off ish about my feelings not knowing how my other family members would react to my issues. This lead a build up of stress on my mind and we all know stress is not good for anyone to deal with. Stress can lead to many issues both mentally and physically.
Opening up a great form of communication into the household can relive a lot of stress and pressure in your home. Having the right family counseling can absolutely help with making your family stronger and more loving.
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